I am writing a letter to myself. To the 15 years old little lady I was, here’s a few things you need to know because no one will tell you how serious this is to our survival and mental state and I know they would have been very helpful in understanding the world in which we live in. Also it is important to know the reasons you have not yet been warned of these harsh realities is because parents, etc… felt it was out of protection. In most cases they will be there for you, to preserve your innocence similar to the saying “what I don’t know, won’t hurt me.” Well before I begin, I would just like to say it is a beautiful blessing to be a woman but it is not easy.
Firstly, you should learn the written and unwritten rules of your environment. By this I mean there are rules that are clear enough to understand but there are social norms and cultural traditions that can be held above or below what you interpret to be the rule. Lauryn Hill, a music artist, once said in one of her songs that we often lose the game before we even learn the rules to play and by this it’s my belief that she is referring to the unwritten rules that often govern the written ones.
Secondly you are an endangered species in our society, being a woman anywhere in the world is an overwhelming burden but no other species is fit enough for it. You may be forced to endure a violation that will haunt you through the rest of your life such as being raped, molested, sexually harassed or classed as a weaker sex, as a weaker group compared to others. You may be underpaid and over worked because of your sex first and race second. You may be labeled too emotional to express your opinion. You may be robbed, bullied or abused for your money, property, ideas, and body. You may be torn away from your sisterhood and forced to rely on the male species for social status, relevance, or survival. You may lose your identity by giving all of yourself unconditionally to a partner whom you think is trustworthy in return for protection and provision. This may cause you to be stagnated.
The last thing you should know is never be ashamed of being smart and never mask your intelligence to fit in. Aim high in whatever you want or need. You can achieve or be whatever you want if you stay focused on it and put action behind it. Don’t wait for unseen help but ask for assistance when needed. Be humble and wise learn martial artist and stay healthy. If you don’t like something say something, if possible or remove yourself from the situation. Examine any and all information given to you before you react or respond.
According to Butler’s point that “vulnerability… becomes highly exacerbated under certain political and social condition, especially those in which violence is a way of life and the means to secure self-defense are limited” (29). However, I have armed you with the wisdom needed to defend yourself in any situation. Your success is inevitable!